The fight or flight response is a natural response to danger. Our bodies are created to fight or flee when danger is upon us Hector Moreno Mexicana Camiseta , such as being attacked by a mountain lion. When faced with this kind of danger, the stress hormones pour into our body, causing some blood to leave our brains and organs and go into our arms and legs. This is vital to us if we are actually being attacked by a mountain lion or a mugger. The problem is that this same response occurs when we become afraid in other situations, such as conflict with a partner.When in conflict with a partner, we need to have the full capacity of our minds to deal rationally and lovingly with the situation. Yet the moment we become afraid Javier Hernandez Mexicana Camiseta , some of the blood leaves our brain, we cannot think as well, and we automatically go into fight or flight. That is when partners tend to fight or withdraw, neither of which leads to conflict resolution.Obviously, fighting or fleeing is not the best way of dealing with conflict. Yet when fears are triggered - fears of losing the other through rejection or abandonment Guillermo Ochoa Mexicana Camiseta , or of losing yourself and being controlled by your partner the stress response is automatically activated and you find yourself fighting or shutting down. Now matter how much you tell yourself that next time you will respond differently, the moment fear is activated you automatically attack, defend, yell, blame Alfredo Talavera Mexicana Camiseta , or shut down through compliance or withdrawal.What can you do about this?There are two solutions to this dilemma.The moment there is tense energy between you and your partner, it is best for both of you to walk away from the conflict for at least 15 minutes. During this time, you can calm down and do some inner work. As the stress response leaves your body, you can think better. This allows you to open to learning about your end of the conflict. Once you are clear about what you are doing that is causing the problem and what you need to do differently, you can reconnect with your partner and talk it out. Sometimes there is not even anything to talk out because the conflict was about the fight or flight rather than about a specific issue. More often than not Javier Aquino Mexicana Camiseta , it is the stress response itself that is the issue. When you take the time to calm down, you might be able to apologize for your anger, blame, defensiveness or withdrawal, and the conflict is over.The second solution is a longer-term solution. This is about doing enough inner work Carlos Vela Mexicana Camiseta , such as the Inner Bonding process that we teach, so that your fears of rejection, abandonment, and engulfment gradually diminish. The more you learn to value yourself rather than expect your partner to define your worth and lovability, the less fear you have of rejection. The more you learn to take loving care of your own feelings and needs Giovani dos Santos Mexicana Camiseta , the less dependent you are upon your partner. When your fear of rejection diminishes, so does your fear of engulfment. People give themselves up and allow themselves to be controlled and consumed by their partner as a way of avoiding rejection. When rejection is no longer so frightening, you will find that your fear of being controlled diminishes.The less fear you have, the less you will be triggered into the stress response of fight or flight. The more secure you feel within due to learning to value yourself and learning to take loving care of yourself, the less fear you will feel in the face of conflict. This is when you stop being so reactive and are able to remain open and caring in the face of conflict.There is no point in continuing a conflict when one or both of you are coming from fear. Continuing a conflict when the fight or flight response is activated will only erode your relationship. Until you can stay open-hearted in a conflict Raul Jimenez Mexicana Camiseta , it is best to continue to follow through on the first solution 芒鈧€?taking a time-out until you feel open-hearted.
CHANGCHUN, Sept. 26 (Xinhua) -- Eight people have been arrestedfor allegedly killing black bears in northeast China's JilinProvince, police said Tuesday.
Using homemade guns and bombs, the gang is believed to havekilled at least three black bears since June, said a police officerfrom the city of Yanbian.
On July 23 Hirving Lozano Mexicana Camiseta , police received reports about the sighting of a bearcorpse with its paws missing in Xinkai Forest Farm.
Examinations found the bear had been killed by a gunshot to thehead around a month earlier.
After a two-month investigation, police arrested seven suspectsand another turned himself in earlier this month.
A dozen bear paws and three bear gallbladders were seized.
In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), bear paws are believed tobe very nutritious, while bear gallbladders and bile have been usedin TCM treatments to reduce fever, remove toxins and treat liverand eye ailments for thousands of years.
Although black bears are listed as a national second classprotected species Miguel Layun Mexicana Camiseta , poaching is not rare in China.
Last month, a 1.46-million-hectare national park for theprotection of Siberian tiger and Amur leopard habitats wasinaugurated in Jilin and neighboring Heilongjiang Province, whichincludes known black bear poaching sites.
The park is aimed at restoring the local ecology which has beendamaged by human activity and better protecting wild animals andtheir habitats. Enditem
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